Top Nine

By no means do I actually believe in New Year Resolutions. I’ve been there, done that. I’m not against anyone who does believe in NYRs but for me, I’ve usually forgotten what those were two months down the line.

Resolution, by definition is the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.

I am not a problem that needs solving. Last November/December, I decided to take a different approach to the whole New Year’s Resolution thing.  I no longer desired to write out specific “goals” I needed to do or be better at in order to have a good and somewhat successful year.

What I knew for sure was how much I wanted to focus on myself. I’ve spent so much [probably too much]  time, putting others before myself. I wanted to focus on growth, expression, compassion, and care.

If you know me, you know how silly that sounds. Most people think I’m already that. Truth is, I have a lot of work to do. The transparency of it all will allow me to focus on me without feeling guilty, which is a current struggle of mine.

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So, here goes..

Putting myself first -- in every situation or interaction.

Often times, I’ve approached situations the other way around. I’ve decided that this year, my number one priority is ME. Not my parents, my partner, sisters or cousins. I mean, who else will put you in the #1 spot?

Speak up. Even if, [especially when] it hurts.

I’ve been a victim of not speaking up before. Whether it be for myself or others. There are one too many injustices in the world for me to ever be silent. This year I vow to always use my voice, in reason.

Follow through on goals [dreams] whether big or small.

Point. Blank. Period. I’ve found myself reluctant on following through on goals + dreams because of what others might think of me or them. People’s opinion doesn’t matter. Facts do.

Plan ME time, ahead of time.

Working such long hours (7am - 5pm) every week day begins to wear me out. By the time Wednesday rolls around I’m usually low on energy and looking for some way to get excited about work.

Do more of the things I love.

Life is meant to be enjoyed.

Actively save money.

Because I will not be another black female addicted to retail, and well, broke.

Travel, more.

I magically find myself taking at least one vacation a year. This year, I’m traveling more. Within New York, exploring the nearby states, visiting college friends. It surprising how refreshing weekend trips can be.

Share.

Our time on earth is limited. No longer will I hold back on sharing because I’m afraid of what others might think.

Eat + Pray, Well.

Who are we without God and good food? I don’t ever wanna find out.

How are you kicking this year off? Stay tuned for progress updates + more sharing on IG and Snapchat.

+Shevon