Why I Agree with Rachel Lindsay's Choice
Admittedly, I am not a fan of the bachelorette nor did I consistently watch the show this season. I did however slightly keep up with the goings on via twitter, random media blurbs, and office conversations with co-workers. On Monday, while women waited with bated breath to learn Rachel's final decision, I was catching up on the latest episode of Claws that I had missed. I wasn't as invested in Rachel's final call because a) I figured she'd go with the guy nobody wanted her to and b) ultimately it's reality tv, so something tells me the producers probably had something to do with the final outcome. Nonetheless, I still side with Rachel on this.
I know that most folks are in a uproar because they really believe that Rachel should've chosen Peter because she liked him more and they had the most "chemistry". Let me say, by all means they would've made a handsome couple. I saw tweets all season (specifically from Black women) proclaiming how all of this was a set up from the get go and Rachel deserved a better crop of men to select from. They also complained that ultimately Bryan is a goof ball that isn't worth Rachel's time and she should've listened to her family and friends and not chosen him.
What I always find fascinating is the level to which Black women project what we want out of life onto someone on the screen. Not to say that I didn't see or hear some good points made from fellow women on twitter or in the office, but seriously y'all, Rachel told America what she came here for. She wanted a proposal and she wasn't on games. "... she was sobbing tears when she broke up with Peter. She practically begged him to stay. She should've waited it out with him." Sigh... and we wonder why we don't get what we want in life. Why would Rachel wait it out with Peter when the facts showed that there's no guarantee that she'd get the result she was aiming for (proposal/marriage) after the show. Further more she had been down that road before and with historical knowledge based on what Peter was presently telling her, she would've wasted her time and lost out on a chance to actually get the life she wants to live. If a guy tells a woman he loves her but he cannot yet take the risk of marrying her, he's not as invested as he claims to be.
Again, what I'm saying isn't in support of Bryan being some knockout choice. He isn't, at least not for me. But Rachel is 32, accomplished, attractive, and wants a family. I applaud her for not saying she wants one thing, but neglecting that and then choosing a man based on her emotions and tears. As Patti Stanger says, "Sometimes its better to get the guy who makes you feel relaxed than the one who gives you butterfly's. Contentment is underrated!"
I myself know that for a fact, as I examine the field of what my friends have in their relationships. There are those who are married or in long term relationships and have butterfly's. However, there are also those who have a partner that they respect and gives them what they need and they are content with that. Both can work, but I've learned at 27, I surely would not pass up on contentment searching for butterfly's.
+Rukiya